You put in the time and effort to create a fantastic post for social media, one you are excited to share. You spend time typing your content, choosing every word carefully, and hit the post button. Then you wait. You wonder if anyone will react, and then doubt takes hold. What if no one likes it? What if no one comments?
Sound familiar? Well, if you can’t guess, I am speaking from experience. Shocker, right?
Have you ever done this?
We live in an age of public popularity. But is it a valid reality?
The Bible tells us we should work to please God and not people (Galatians 1:10). Because when we work to please people, we will never succeed, and it is a hollow pursuit. Most people are fickle creatures. Something that makes them happy today may not be good enough tomorrow.
If we are honest, we must admit that the “people pleaser” in us has sought affirmation from others at one time or another. We all desire praise that will make us feel worthy, but it is never enough, even when received.
Social Media often feels like High School resurrected!
Feeling rejected is common in this fallen world, especially on social media. When excluded at a party or other social event, the reason may be evident based on history. However, exclusion on social media by people who do not know you personally can leave you confused.
So why does rejection on social media matter anyway? Well, It all boils down to our basic human desire to feel wanted and accepted. But do we misinterpret reactions on social media?
Several factors contribute to popularity on sites such as Facebook, and we have little to no control over them. You have to remember that sites like Facebook control who sees what. It isn’t fair, but it is reality.
Too many people in this world base their value on the number of followers, likes, or shares they receive on social media. But, unfortunately, this form of seeking is dangerous. Because when that fickle crowd turns on someone, they are a pack of ravenous wolves.
Someone who forms an identity based on social media will have difficulty recovering from cyberbullying, especially when emotionally tied to that existence.
Everyone fights their own battles.
Unfortunately, it is a fact of life that not everyone will like us.
It helps to remember that when someone dislikes you, it often has nothing to do with you.
We live in a broken world full of broken people.
However, that doesn’t mean their actions and words aren’t harmful. If you let others’ comments or opinions define you, they change your identity. Furthermore, if you continually repeat those negative words to yourself, you begin to change your perspective on life. Consequently, you live in a perpetual state of self-criticism.
It is vital to see yourself the way God sees you. The Lord has a purpose and plan for your life. We have an earthly view when we try to please people and a heavenly view when we work to please God. Who do you want to please?
God is constant and never changes, so our value is substantiated when we seek to please Him.
Do you know who you are in Christ? Or have you allowed the world to shape your identity?